Attitude of Gratitude #1
Have you had one of those days where you just feel beaten by life? We all have those days so you can rest assured. Relax. Put your feet up and make yourself comfortable. You are in the right place at the right time.
This has been created for you, for today and now, to get you through. Afterall, everything happens for a reason and finding yourself on this page was no accident.
There is beauty in all situations, it’s just hard for us to see sometimes especially when emotions are involved. Remember when you gave advice to your friend recently and you sounded so wise and confident. Of course things were going to work out for your friend, they just couldn’t see the bigger picture because they couldn’t think clearly but you could definitely see it. Sound familiar doesn’t it? I can hear you chuckling to yourself, because I just did the same.
We need to turn our thoughts around and reframe them into a positive picture.
Our thoughts are similar to an onion. They have multiple layers and are quite complex, you have to peel off all the outer layers to get to the center of the onion – much like our thoughts. Our real emotion is often buried beneath layers and layers of fears, doubts and negative self-talk and we become accustom to this. We give up trying because it’s too hard when really we don’t even begin to try.
So, I am here to challenge you. I challenge you to try next time you feel like this, to really get to the roots of the emotion that is causing you to feel this way. Yes, I am not going to lie, it will be hard at the beginning. But if we start working on our thought patterns over time it will become a habit and after much patience, practice and virtue we will all be free to choose our thoughts and emotions. Who wants to be a victim to their emotions? I certainly don’t! And I know you don’t want to either.
We weren’t born with a spirit of fear, doubt or negativity. We were born to be experience freedom, happiness and peace. Did you know all of your negative beliefs are just that: beliefs and not actual facts, so we can change them! Kind of like a light switch, so you flick it on and off. We need to use this simple but effective technique when it comes to negativity, don’t let it rob any more of your precious time. Afterall, we are creatures of habit! “First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”
It’s not easy to break old habits, but it is possible. We cannot control the future or control other people’s actions but you can choose how you feel and react to situations like bad habits. It will take some practice to break bad habits but you will thank yourself when you are no longer confined to your old habits. Freedom is what you will experience.
New beginnings can be a little daunting but they should truly be embraced and celebrated. New beginnings bring hope, and hope is what sustains us on a day-to-day basis. What is comes down to though is choice. The choice to be happy, we should embrace change and break old habits. What we need to do is open our heart to accept change, so over time our hearts will be filled with wisdom and a sense of accomplishment.
One is happy as a result of one’s own efforts, once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness–simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self-denial to a point, love of work, and above all, a clear conscience. Happiness is no vague dream; of that I now feel certain. -George Sand
George Sand’s quote is very encouraging, its great to see that when we break old habits that have bound us for so long we truly experience freedom. One of the best pieces of advice I have come across lately is a simple but effective phrase:
Being yourself is really important. I have wasted years and years of mopping around wishing I was somebody else. Do you know what, I look back and think why did I torture myself? It can never happen because it’s not meant to happen. We are all born into this world for a purpose, and no two people were born for exactly the same purpose. Imagine how boring the world would be if everybody tried to be somebody else, the world would be a complete and utter mess!
From one person to another – please JUST be YOURSELF. You may not be happy with what you’ve been given in life but we all have THINGS to offer this world that nobody else can. The world is not meant to be black and white – its meant to be a colourful playground for all of us to explore who we are. STOP comparing yourself to others, it only makes the situation worse. OPEN your EYES and start loving yourself from the inside out, you will be amazed at what you discover.
A great friend of mine gave me a great piece of advice the other day that I would love to share with you. Grab yourself a journal new journal to symbolise new beginnings – we all know how important that are (reread above if you need to). On the inside of the journal write “Attitude for Gratitude” to remind yourself what the journals purpose is. Set aside 10 minutes each day and write down everything you like, yes like about yourself. You can do this during your lunch break, on the train ride home, first thing in the morning or the last thing before bed. You set the rules. It might be hard at first but it will get better after a little while – remember there is always hope.
Hope is the biggest anchor for me. Every time I find myself in a hopeless situation, I turn to HOPE and believe it will prevail – it always does. If I had to just give you one piece of advice it would be to never give up HOPE!
HOPE stands for:
Humble yourself and never give up
Out of the darkness and into light
Passion will pull you through
Everlasting love – believe
An attitude of gratitude is a really important foundation that needs to be based on a solid ground. Otherwise every time a storm hits the foundation will crumble under the pressure. Little steps help, so remember to start small and manageable. I don’t recommend going out there and sprinting a marathon so to speak before you can crawl. Take it nice and slow. Baby steps.
Actions to take starting NOW:
Be kind to yourself
Never give up HOPE
Remember what hope stands for
Break old habits
Always be yourself
Stop comparing yourself to others
Keep an Attitude of Gratitude journal and write all the things you like about yourself daily
There is no better time than NOW